Yes. Sex can be enjoyed just as much after HIV diagnosis as it was before, with either long- or short-term partners.
If you haven’t started HIV treatment you should make sure your male partners wear condoms during sex.
If you have started HIV treatment and have had an undetectable HIV viral load for at least six months, the likelihood of you passing on HIV to others is significantly reduced.
Talk to your healthcare team about what else you can do to prevent passing on HIV to sexual partners, this includes:
If you are on effective treatment and your HIV viral load is undetectable, the likelihood of you passing on HIV to others is significantly reduced, so it’s you and your partners choice to decide whether he uses condoms.
For it to be as safe as possible for him to not wear a condom, the following provisions are essential:
Condoms are the best way to protect you and your male partner from unwanted pregnancy, HIV and other sexually transmitted infections (STIs). This includes bacterial infections like gonorrhoea or viruses such as herpes.
When both partners have HIV, it is still important to use a condom because:
There are many benefits in talking about your diagnosis:
Are there any negatives?
It is helpful to think about the different reactions partners may have hearing about your HIV diagnosis:
If your situation is particularly difficult and you are concerned about domestic problems or violence, you should ask your healthcare team if there is any specialist guidance or support available to help you make your decision or manage negative reactions.
Possibly, but sex drive changes are common amongst people with or without HIV for reasons entirely unrelated to HIV. It is also more common to happen as you age.
It doesn’t affect everyone’s sex drive, however, HIV can increase the likelihood of a low libido in the following ways:
If you are concerned about changes to your sex drive, discomfort during sex or any other sexual problem, speak to your healthcare team for advice.
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